Control the Freak in You

You are at work, out with friends, or home with your loved ones. Then the desire to be a freak hits you. You can’t help it; it’s gnawing at you, taunting you, beckoning right then and there to be released. So, you ignore you better judgment and let the “freak” in you out--the Control Freak, that is.


We all know what that "freak" is. It’s when you feel the need to tell everyone around you what to do. When you feel the uncontrollable urge to dominate the scene and be the boss. Yet, when you do, everyone around you either leaves or the entire mood shifts. You are so caught up trying to control the situation you cannot even see you caused it. Your initial thought may be, “They’re tripping. I know better, and I am just trying to help.” But that may not be what they needed or wanted.


Many of us are very quick to talk but extremely slow to listen. And when we are, we end up being that person no one wants to be around. When you look at life, you realize you can only control on person: yourself. Sometimes advice is warranted but constant unsolicited advice or criticism can only be seen as bossy and controlling.


So, the next time you see something that does not sit well with you or needs to be done the way you feel it should, take a moment to just BE. If an individual is acting in a manner that is unacceptable to you, trust they will realize it in time and ask for help. And if they do not, then it’s not your problem to fix.








Until we meet again....