When T.O. said it in an interview, everyone laughed and thought he was crazy. He used this statement to cover all of his narcissistic antics. However, if you remove his statement from his questionable actions, it really makes perfect sense. After all, who will love you more than you? Why shouldn’t you profess your love for yourself to the world?
We are quick to tell folks we love the Lord, our family, our significant other. Yet, we omit the most important relationship of all--your relationship with yourself. We make a point to tell our loved ones that we love them on a regular basis. But do we tell ourselves that just as often? Do we act as if we love ourselves?
The next chance you get, sit in the car or a room with nothing on and just “be” with yourself. Don’t think about work, school, family, or your significant other. Instead, dedicate five minutes to you with nothing to distract you. Let the thought of you sink in. Let the feeling of just “being” relax your mind. Get reacquainted with you. Get to know… you.
Reflect on your place in life and rededicate your life to you. This is not suggesting you become a self-absorbed type of person, but that you focus and shape yourself into the powerful individual you were intended to be. When you do, you will be surprised at how quickly many issues you have trouble dealing with become manageable; how easily the once unbearable stresses of life become endurable. And when you fall back in love with yourself, you will also be amazed at how much more those around you will love and appreciate you.
Until next time….
Thursday, April 30, 2009
Friday, April 17, 2009
Control the Freak in You
You are at work, out with friends, or home with your loved ones. Then the desire to be a freak hits you. You can’t help it; it’s gnawing at you, taunting you, beckoning right then and there to be released. So, you ignore you better judgment and let the “freak” in you out--the Control Freak, that is.
We all know what that "freak" is. It’s when you feel the need to tell everyone around you what to do. When you feel the uncontrollable urge to dominate the scene and be the boss. Yet, when you do, everyone around you either leaves or the entire mood shifts. You are so caught up trying to control the situation you cannot even see you caused it. Your initial thought may be, “They’re tripping. I know better, and I am just trying to help.” But that may not be what they needed or wanted.
Many of us are very quick to talk but extremely slow to listen. And when we are, we end up being that person no one wants to be around. When you look at life, you realize you can only control on person: yourself. Sometimes advice is warranted but constant unsolicited advice or criticism can only be seen as bossy and controlling.
So, the next time you see something that does not sit well with you or needs to be done the way you feel it should, take a moment to just BE. If an individual is acting in a manner that is unacceptable to you, trust they will realize it in time and ask for help. And if they do not, then it’s not your problem to fix.
Until we meet again....
We all know what that "freak" is. It’s when you feel the need to tell everyone around you what to do. When you feel the uncontrollable urge to dominate the scene and be the boss. Yet, when you do, everyone around you either leaves or the entire mood shifts. You are so caught up trying to control the situation you cannot even see you caused it. Your initial thought may be, “They’re tripping. I know better, and I am just trying to help.” But that may not be what they needed or wanted.
Many of us are very quick to talk but extremely slow to listen. And when we are, we end up being that person no one wants to be around. When you look at life, you realize you can only control on person: yourself. Sometimes advice is warranted but constant unsolicited advice or criticism can only be seen as bossy and controlling.
So, the next time you see something that does not sit well with you or needs to be done the way you feel it should, take a moment to just BE. If an individual is acting in a manner that is unacceptable to you, trust they will realize it in time and ask for help. And if they do not, then it’s not your problem to fix.
Until we meet again....
Wednesday, April 15, 2009
The MAN Holding Me Down
For years I heard stories of how the MAN can hold you down. Well, I am here to tell you it is true! The MAN can and did hold me down. I am living proof. Every time I tried to take one step forward, the MAN pulled me two steps back.
The MAN introduced me to alcohol.
The MAN made me believe I needed to be a womanizer.
The MAN made me believe the love of money was not evil but, in fact, necessary.
The MAN made me believe I was not good enough.
In fact, the MAN is probably holding you down as well!
See, when I thought about it, the MAN was responsible for everything that kept me from being successful. I can remember talking to a philosophy teacher once and the discussion was about how the MAN was holding me—and all of my brothers—down. The teacher concurred but then asked me one simply question: “What do plan to do about it?” Thus began my struggle to find an answer. It used to infuriate me to have see the MAN everyday, mocking me, taunting me, showing me a life I could not have. And no matter where I went, there He was. So I took a moment to sit down and devise a plan to end the MAN's reign over my life.
First, I stopped drinking.
Then, I stopped womanizing.
Next, I stopped believing that money defined me.
Then, I stopped believing negative thoughts.
Once I put my plan into action and ended other vices the MAN could use against me, surprisingly, the MAN began to loosen his grip. He, instead, became a pitiful shell of an evil villain; a joke; a myth. And then I finally had my answer. After years of trying to get that mythological “devil” I so truly hated off of my back, it soon became very clear that the MAN I most feared was…
Me.
Until we meet again….
The MAN introduced me to alcohol.
The MAN made me believe I needed to be a womanizer.
The MAN made me believe the love of money was not evil but, in fact, necessary.
The MAN made me believe I was not good enough.
In fact, the MAN is probably holding you down as well!
See, when I thought about it, the MAN was responsible for everything that kept me from being successful. I can remember talking to a philosophy teacher once and the discussion was about how the MAN was holding me—and all of my brothers—down. The teacher concurred but then asked me one simply question: “What do plan to do about it?” Thus began my struggle to find an answer. It used to infuriate me to have see the MAN everyday, mocking me, taunting me, showing me a life I could not have. And no matter where I went, there He was. So I took a moment to sit down and devise a plan to end the MAN's reign over my life.
First, I stopped drinking.
Then, I stopped womanizing.
Next, I stopped believing that money defined me.
Then, I stopped believing negative thoughts.
Once I put my plan into action and ended other vices the MAN could use against me, surprisingly, the MAN began to loosen his grip. He, instead, became a pitiful shell of an evil villain; a joke; a myth. And then I finally had my answer. After years of trying to get that mythological “devil” I so truly hated off of my back, it soon became very clear that the MAN I most feared was…
Me.
Until we meet again….
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